my girl decided she wanted to make a site for herself I agreed
it would be a good idea. She has however asked if she may use
some thoughts and writings from me too, and this then is that
We have been
24/7 together two and a half years now, and each day we still
learn things, and happen upon unexpected discoveries about one
another. In all that time our view of our relationship has changed
many times, in that we have described ourselves within the lifestyle
in many different ways. At first we worried about what people
thought of us. In fact so much so that we were probably influenced
by others. With time spent together comes experience, and a knowledge
that we are what we are, and now we only really answer to each
other about what we do.
with, and in each other's company also gives us a strength that
few manage to obtain. Because we don't answer to anyone else,
we don't need to concern ourselves with what they think of us.
Our D/s is what we make it. It is both personal and private. We
rarely discuss in public the actualities of what we do, or how.
We see no need, frankly, to tell others about our private moments.
What we are happy to demonstrate is how strong our relationship
is: and of course that is created by not only our lifestyle choice,
but by the fact, whether through luck or judgement that we are
matched in almost every way. We think the same thoughts, like
and dislike the same things, and for the most part are in tune
on pretty much everything we do.
finding that soulmate is based on luck: however, having found
the one it is so important that we take the opportunity that's
presented and go with it. Whatever that may mean. Too many live
in the comfort zone of what they have, afraid to break out and
take that big leap of faith to grasp what they know is really
right for them. To those I say "you are not as committed
as you would have us believe".
I am pleased
that my cleo has created this site, which in some way may help
others, especially submissives, but Dominants too, understand
some of the inner workings of the sub/slave mind. To know what
is going on in there is more than half the battle.
the site to all who happen upon it.
Writings of MG's....
I Dont Do Pain
When my girl
and I first "met" online, in a D/s chatroom, we were
drawn to each other, although quite what by I am not sure. We
knew nothing about each other, at that time, and of course one
has so little to go on because we only show what we want others
to see online.
do remember that one of the very first things she said to me when
we began talking "seriously" was "i don't do pain".
Right. Well of course we take those things on board, and when
we first met face to face and began our D/s relationship in real
life this was something which was very much in my mind: you know
the thoughts: "Dont hurt her, you'll put her off" etc
This was the
case to start with, and the application of pain as part of play
was something which we steered well clear of. However we are not
ones to leave stones unturned, and our thoughts advanced to the
idea of creating mental states and mindsets which are often achieved
through the application of pain. This was done carefully and over
a period of time, so that nothing too intense or shocking happened
3 years after cleo uttered those words "i don't do pain"
I can categorically state she lied!
She is the
worst pain slut I know and long may it continue.
needs them ?
We have spent
a good part of the day, on and off, looking at ways to create
more control in our life. This is a need which the sub has and
while i agree that it may be needed, finding the processes that
work effectively, and which are manageable are not so simple.
We have just looked at some sites that list various "rules"
laid down by which slaves live with their Masters. I have one
question to ask here....
Do these people
want partners, or do they want robots?
It seems to
me that a person who can, for example require his slave to adhere
to a 128 point list throughout her life can neither remember all
the things in the list, or check effectively whether they have
been done, or not.
when I see such items as "the slave shall, on her period
only be allowed to wear a pad or tampon at the discretion of the
Master...." then I am amazed that anyone in their right mind
can either write this, or agree to live by it. This is no more
than total fantasy, and designed purely for the self gratification
of a person who obviously has absolutely no regard whatsoever
for the feelings and emotions of the person whom he professes
to "care for totally, and always act in her best interest".
What I don't
see in any of these sites is an admission that the Master might
err, or may get it wrong. Are there such peerfect people in this
world? I doubt it. The fact of the matter is that when a person
is "engaged" in this way, and given the term slave it
is purely like a job: how one can be so impersonal and factual
about such things as orgasm, and love and care i do not know.
can't, and I know I never will. You think I am joking.. well I